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When the world around you feels chaotic, leading a team can feel overwhelming, especially when your inner world is just as loud. Most managers try to push through, rely on willpower, or double down on doing more.

But in reality, external chaos only becomes manageable when we learn to work with the internal chaos driving our emotions, reactions, and habits.

Fortunately, this week’s guest helps us unpack exactly why leaders get stuck in overwhelm and how to shift back into clarity and confidence.

Rob Kalwarowsky is a world-renowned executive coach, author of the best-selling book Capitalizing on Chaos, and keynote & TEDx speaker. We explore the hidden parts of ourselves that shape our leadership, the subconscious fears that drive “DIY leadership,” people-pleasing, and imposter syndrome, and the practice that brings you back to center when everything feels too much.

If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling, overworking, micromanaging, avoiding decisions, or doubting your capability even when you're successful… this conversation will help you understand what’s happening inside your brain and what to do next.

Rob’s practical framework gives you the mental tools to lead yourself and your team with steadiness, self-awareness, and strength, even when everything feels uncertain.

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Conversation Topics

• (00:00) Introduction – Leading through internal and external chaos.

• (01:07) How self-awareness impacts leadership and team dynamics.

• (04:14) The DIY Leader—When doing everything holds you back.

• (07:44) TA tool for acknowledging stress and building empathy.

• (10:25) Understanding internal leadership behaviors.

• (16:21) Using self-awareness to improve interactions and decision-making.

• (19:41) Applying the “Parts Framework” to enhance collaboration.

• (22:50) How your internal state affects team morale.

• (24:41) Recognizing and managing energy-draining saboteurs.

• (30:39) [Extended only] Team strategies for shared language and stress signals.

• (32:56) [Extended only] Using vulnerability and playful cues to improve team communication.

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- Check out his book Capitalizing on Your Strengths here: https://www.robkalwarowsky.com/capitalizing

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