November 19, 2019

78: Don’t Let Fear Control You (or Your Colleagues) with Ruth Soukup

Fear is one of our most natural instincts. At its best, fear drives us to make good choices that preserve our safety and security, but at its worst, it inhibits us from taking risks and moving forward. After surveying more than 4,000 people, seven patterns of fear emerged. Knowing your fear pattern, and your colleagues’, can help you all achieve your goals.

Ruth Soukup is a New York Times bestselling author dedicated to helping women overcome fear and create a life they love. Through her blog, Living Well Spending Less, which reaches more than 1 million women each month, she encourages her readers to follow their dreams and reach their goals. She is also the host of Do It Scared® podcast, the founder of the Living Well Planner® and Elite Blog Academy®, as well as the author of five bestselling books. Here newest book, Do It Scared®: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Obstacles, and Create a Life You Love will be available in May 2019.

Ruth and I talk about the 7 fear archetypes each of which has strengths and struggles, we get into my fear archetype, which is a very common one, as well as specific things you can do to manage and reduce your fears. And, we get into how knowing your team members fear archetypes can help you be a better manager and so you can better support your team members.

Read the related blog article: Take Control and Conquer Your Fears

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  • Complete the fear assessment to better understand your fear archetype:
  • Often fear is unconscious or we experience it as overwhelm, anxiety, feeling stuck or depressed.
  • Once you bring your fear to the surface and recognize it, you can do something about it.
  • Fear does not present the same for everyone but there are seven patterns of fear or fear archetype: (1) The Procrastinator, (2) The Rule Follower, (3) The People Pleaser, (4) The Outcast, (5) The Self-Doubter, (6) The Excuse Maker, (7) The Pessimist.
  • Each fear archetype has positive qualities that serves us and negative qualities that inhibit us.
  • Understand the nature of your fear so you can take appropriate steps to move past it. Look for how it shows up in your ways of thinking and behaving. Then replace those thoughts and actions with small, new ways that better serve you.
  • Action is the antidote to fear. You can only overcome fear by moving forward.
  • Because we don’t all fear the same things, a behavior that seems easy for you may cause deep fear in a team member.
  • When you understand the fear archetype of your team members, you can better motivate and support them to achieve their goals.


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